Good Mentors Build People, Not Just Skills

Arpit Bhayani

curious, tinkerer, and explorer


Mentoring someone is one of the most satisfying ways to share what you have learned and see someone grow because of it, but doing it well is what makes the difference.

  • share best practices, insights
  • try to make them more efficient with their work

Be open with sharing your real-world lessons; that’s what truly helps your mentee. Show them how to avoid pitfalls you have already seen. Give them tips to tackle tasks faster and with fewer mistakes. And when they stumble, be there.

  • provide emotional support if things go wrong
  • share truths rather than comforting lies

It is easy to sugarcoat failures, but real growth comes from honest feedback, delivered kindly. When they feel overwhelmed, remind them that setbacks are normal. Stand by them so they know they are not alone when things break.

  • define short-term goals and chase long-term visions

People tend to be either short-term doers or long-term thinkers, but as a mentor, help them balance both. Define clear, small wins, but always tie them back to the bigger picture so their efforts have a lasting impact.

And above all, listen. Sometimes, your mentee doesn’t need advice, but just an ear. Let them vent. Often, they will talk themselves into their answers, and that’s growth worth showing up for.

Great mentoring builds people.

Arpit Bhayani

Staff Engg at GCP Memorystore, Creator of DiceDB, ex-Staff Engg for Google Ads and GCP Dataproc, ex-Amazon Fast Data, ex-Director of Engg. SRE and Data Engineering at Unacademy. I spark engineering curiosity through my no-fluff engineering videos on YouTube and my courses


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