When Emotions Spill Over at Work

Arpit Bhayani

curious, tinkerer, and explorer


We’ve all seen it happen at work - someone suddenly snaps.

Emotional outbursts are natural. I’ve been there too, and I’ve seen teams struggle because of it. We all have moments when the pressure gets too much, and emotions spill out.

These outbursts never come from a single event; there’s usually a long build-up behind them: extreme work pressure, lack of growth, constant deadlines, sleep deprivation, or even strong feedback from a manager. People feel overwhelmed, and it only takes one small trigger for everything to burst out.

But here’s the problem - emotional outbursts break team harmony. Morale drops, productivity suffers, and negativity spreads across the room. One person’s frustration can ripple through the entire team.

If you ever feel you’re on the verge of an outburst, pause. Breathe. Stay calm, no matter what. On the other hand, if you sense a teammate is reaching that point, step in, curb it, and loop in your leadership.

Sometimes, just taking them for a walk or letting them talk it out can make all the difference. There are always better places to vent than in the middle of the office.

If you find yourself in that situation:

  • Pause
  • Reflect on what’s really bothering you
  • Blow off steam - talk to a friend

And if the root cause is bigger, like a lack of growth or a poor fit, ask yourself if it’s time to explore opportunities elsewhere.

Leaders play a big role here. By staying calm themselves and creating safe spaces for feedback, they set the tone for the whole team. So, if you are a leader, make a note.

Frustration shows you something is off. The same energy, when channeled, can fuel creativity and passion.

And remember, emotions are signals.


If you find this helpful and interesting,

Arpit Bhayani

Staff Engg at GCP Memorystore, Creator of DiceDB, ex-Staff Engg for Google Ads and GCP Dataproc, ex-Amazon Fast Data, ex-Director of Engg. SRE and Data Engineering at Unacademy. I spark engineering curiosity through my no-fluff engineering videos on YouTube and my courses

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