How to Handle Arrogant Colleagues at Work

Arpit Bhayani

curious, tinkerer, and explorer


We’ve all dealt with that colleague who dominates the room, dismisses ideas, and acts like the smartest person there. That’s arrogance, but it doesn’t have to ruin your day…

Stay professional, no matter what, and focus on the work, not the ego. It is natural to respond with sarcasm and push back aggressively, but that only fuels the fire.

By the way, sometimes seeing arrogance as a sign of insecurity can help you respond with calm instead of frustration. Pick your battles wisely. Not every situation needs a fight. Some arguments are better avoided; some are better left alone.

Most arrogant comments don’t deserve a response. If your points hold weight, ask thoughtful questions to expose flaws politely. If you can, then find allies who support your argument and can pitch in your favor. If the arrogance persists, document the incidents and escalate responsibly when necessary.

Also, protect your well-being at all costs. Step back, take breaks, and remember your mental health comes first. Lead by example; be humble and respectful. This often highlights arrogance in others more than words ever could.

Arrogance does grab short-term attention, but respect and humility win in the long run. People collaborate with those who are respectful, humble, and easy to work with. When they see arrogant behavior, it’s unlikely they will want to collaborate with that person on future projects.

Your conduct will always carry you farther than sharp words.

So, next time you face arrogance at work, pause, respond with composure, and you may find the entire room shifts in your favor.


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Arpit Bhayani

Staff Engg at GCP Memorystore, Creator of DiceDB, ex-Staff Engg for Google Ads and GCP Dataproc, ex-Amazon Fast Data, ex-Director of Engg. SRE and Data Engineering at Unacademy. I spark engineering curiosity through my no-fluff engineering videos on YouTube and my courses

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